First and foremost, I’ve noticed a few new subscribers and I want to thank you guys and welcome y’all to this little blog family!
#Weekendcoffeeshare is a writing prompt that allows bloggers to create a more personal space aside from the curated content that is usually posted. This prompt facilitates a virtual coffee date between the blogger and the reader and allows for unadulterated realness. These conversations are raw and may not always make perfect sense to everyone. I discovered this hashtag (kinda late) and thought it would be the perfect addition to this blog seeing as how I’ve needed to get some things off my chest. Also, I welcome healthy and constructive conversation in the comments. Are you ready?
P.S. I actually don’t like coffee at all. So, I’ll do tea!
If you were having coffee and I was having tea, I’d tell you a lot has changed. Since having my little boy, I’ve realized that very few things in life are as concrete as motherhood. Take for example, my dream job/career. To be quite honest, I’m super lost in the sauce when it comes to that. I’m the kind of person that likes to dabble in a bit of everything. I feel as though I’ve had so little time to really enjoy doing that before having to choose what I’ll get a degree in and do forever. Who decided that making that kind of decision in young adulthood was a smart idea?
Your 20’s are your selfish years they say, but I feel like I’m trying to please everyone except myself sometimes. If you’re in college or your early 20’s, everyone has ideas about what you should do and be and they aren’t shy about voicing their opinions to you. Sometimes, those things are in direct opposition to what you want in life. How do you stand up for yourself without sounding like a child with their head in the clouds?
The world we live in is changing. The people are changing. Specifically, my generation is changing things. For millennials, gone is the idea of working a 9-5 forever for stability sake. No, we chase happiness. Where ever that leads us. Whatever income it provides us. A popular artist summed it up perfectly when she sang these lyrics:
“It’s not about the money,
we don’t need your money,
We just wanna make the world dance…”
But how do you convey this carefree lifestyle to concerned parents who don’t want to see their baby bird crash to the ground after leaving the nest?
So that’s where I am right now. Trying to follow the path to and do things that bring me happiness. And then turning that happiness and passion into a sustainable lifestyle.
One thing I know is that I love being a mom and a wife. But I’m not perfect and I’m tired of pretending to be. I’m no motherhood expert, just a 21-year-old mom trying to figure this ish out. I’m not a blogging expert, just a woman and a laptop and plenty to talk about. I’m no Instagram baddie, nor do I wish to be. I don’t fit neatly into any box, and I’m okay with that. I don’t really know what I want to be when I “grow up”, but I’m going to take all the time I need to figure that out and I’m not apologizing for it. That way, when I do find it, it’ll be as solid and unchanging as concrete.
My words were not intended to offend anyone. They come from my personal experiences and are true for me and not necessarily you. I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments.